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Paring Down the Universe

October 22nd, 2013


Your child needs help from you in paring down the size of the universe. You are your child’s guide to life and when you abdicate this role, you diminish the experience and wisdom that you have to offer your child. Many decisions are too complicated for your child to make;

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Parents as Role Models that are Internalized by Children

October 15th, 2013


If your child is met with respect, encouragement and compassion, they develop encouragement and compassion towards others and, eventually, this becomes internalized and they treat themselves with respect, encouragement and self-compassion. If your child is met with criticality, punishment, and judgment, then eventually they treat others and themselves with harshness.  Limits

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Favorite phrase: “I wonder….”

October 8th, 2013


The phrase “I wonder…” Engages a child Plants a seed Raises a question Offers an opportunity And—best of all–doesn’t require an answer.

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Negative Attention-Getting & Together Time

October 1st, 2013


All children want attention and, for most children, negative attention is better than no attention at all. Sometimes your child may challenge limits and engage in power struggles as a way to get your attention, albeit in a negative way. When it seems like there is an uptick in the

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Testing Limits

September 24th, 2013


Some challenges and discipline issues are age-appropriate. A child’s job is to test limits; a parent’s job is to set limits. These are conflicting job descriptions! Power struggles and discipline issues often arise from this discrepancy. There are discipline issues that are inevitable; there are “good” power struggles. One-year-olds are

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Getting Control of Your Angry Self-Talk

September 17th, 2013


Most children have a unique talent of knowing what buttons to push on their parents and when is the worst possible time to push them.  Try this technique to help your protect your buttons and get control of your inner self-talk so that you can calm yourself and deal more effectively with

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Feeling Notes

September 10th, 2013


Feeling notes can be extremely powerful in helping your child work through feelings. Feeling notes are similar to adult journaling, where putting the feelings into words and putting the words to paper can be extremely cathartic and empowering. To be deeply heard and understood by an adult can help your

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That Magic 30 Minutes: One-on-One Time

September 3rd, 2013


The most important things you can give your child are your attention and your time. Especially when your child is feeling angry, aggressive, frustrated, or jealous of a sibling for a stretch of time, some of these intense feelings can be eased by one-on-one time with you. This one-on-one time

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Building a Partnership with Your Child

August 29th, 2013


When I turned 50, my daughter turned 20. I realized then for the first time that if my daughter and I were lucky enough to have another 40 years together, 2/3 of our relationship would be adult-to-adult, not adult-to-child. Then I asked myself the question: what can be done in

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Young Children, Rules, and Compassion

August 20th, 2013


One of my favorite quotes about young children is from a National Association for Young Children (NAEYC) brochure about developmentally-appropriate practices: “Young children do not always understand and remember the rules.” I wish I had a neon sign in my office that said “Young children do not always understand and remember the rules.” And

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