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Getting Control of Your Angry Self-Talk

September 17th, 2013

Most children have a unique talent of knowing what buttons to push on their parents and when is the worst possible time to push them.  Try this technique to help your protect your buttons and get control of your inner self-talk so that you can calm yourself and deal more effectively with a high-adrenaline moment.

 CHILD’S JOURNEY Self-talk: Say this to yourself:

“This has nothing to do with me. This has to do with my child struggling with being ____years old. This is my child’s journey. This is my child’s struggle. This has nothing to do with me.”

And the truth is, 90% of the time this is true. The difficult behavior is about your child and their struggle. One-year-olds experience lots of frustration, two-year-olds are struggling with trying to control the world, three-year-olds are not sure if they are big or little, four-year-olds are testing limits, five-year-olds think that parents are dumber than dirt. Chances are, the hot situation you are in has to do with your child’s journey and struggle to grow up and it is important that you own who the problem belongs to.

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